If anyone has seen the latest cover of Vibe Magazine, maybe you like me are disappointed that these African American and Hispanic women are considered to be the new role models for black women. In addition to the cover, I read the interview with these women. Evidently, even though these women on a whole do not feel that women should be looking at them as role models, the REALITY (no pun intended) is that they are role models whether they like it or not. Furthermore, they are not just role models for the impressionable; there are also grown women who aspire to be like them. What these women are wearing on the cover makes them look like high class prostitutes, but because they are wearing it, other women now want those same outfits. Whether you are a reality TV star or just an everyday woman, if a man were to see a woman in any of the outfits these women are wearing on the cover, he would think she is a hoe. In the article, Chrissy from Love and Hip Hop was asked if she considers herself a role model. She replied that if she can inspire a woman to stick up for herself and take what she wants out of life, than yes. Anyone who watched Love and Hip Hop can undoubtedly see that in her case, what she had to take was her boyfriend Jim Jones’ hand in marriage. He did not get on one knee and propose to her EVEN THOUGH she was by his side for 7 years. She was so desperate to be engaged that she took matters into her own hands and proposed to him. Not only did he say “I’m with you” instead of saying YES, he lost the ring that she had custom made for him and she had to get him another one. On top of that, she is quick to judge Emily’s (from Love and Hip Hop) relationship with Fab as if they are not on the same boat…they were both being strung along. I bet if Jim Jones proposed to Chrissy after being together for a year, she would have said yes. What happened…she gave him the ass before marriage and they have been PLAYING HOUSE ever since. I will admit that Evelyn is a smart business woman as far as the new ventures she is taking and she is pretty, but the reality for her is that she sexed her way to the top. She used her looks and her vagina to get to where she wanted to be career wise. She needed money to make it and the men that she dated had plenty of it and did not mind spending it on her. Then she met Chad Ochocinco and gave him the ass on the first night and in this recent season, he is telling her to her face how he has never been monogamous, he will continue to sleep with other women and should be able to bring those women home. Evelyn may act like she does not care as long as she knows the truth or may believe that marriage will change him. I am sure that will change if Chad gives her a STD OR HIV. Clearly, despite Evelyn’s success, she is still suffering from daddy issues which are why she attracts and deals with the men that she does. Chad may be a man, but he is not an ELITE MAN, he is not the man that you will gladly bring home to meet your parents. Real talk…he looks like the type of man that would sleep with Evelyn’s daughter. I do not know much about the other women on the cover, but I think they should have chosen other women altogether. Why not choose Michelle Obama or something, they should have chosen women who understand the use and misuse of their platform. Even for me as a young married African American woman, I may have made mistakes in the past, but now more than ever I know my platform. There are a lot of women who look up to me and because of that, I am mindful of how I dress, how I conduct myself, how I treat people, and making sure that wherever I go, I am representing my name. Even in the bible, it says that a good name is more desirable than great wealth… these reality star women do not understand that. Please feel free to comment or share your opinion and keep it classy always.

I think women, especially African American women under estimate the great power that lies between them if you know what I mean…the power of the “P”! I believe that if women were to acknowledge the power that they possess and what REAL MEN will do to have some of their “power”, there would be more marriages amongst the black community along with stronger less volatile relationships. In addition to this, my black women need to stop having interest in a man only because of what they think he can offer them financially. Let me be clear; I am not saying that having a man who is stable as far as his income and place of residence is not important. I am saying that black women need to look at the character of that man and determine if he is one who will love them and treat them like a queen. I am saying that black women need to stop offering their vagina in exchange for a high class weave or that new dress to wear to the club. I am saying that black women need to be more concerned with what is in that man’s heart as oppose to his wallet. I am saying that black women need to stop hoping only for men that look like Idris Elba or Will Smith. I am saying that black women need to recognize a man’s potential and not just the here and now. Eventually looks will fade and if that is all you or the man has to offer, the relationship is destined for destruction. Some of you who are reading this may be thinking, why are you putting down black women and making it seem like we are all gold diggers?? I am not here to dog black women, but I am going to keep it one hundred with what I have observed and what we see in media. Let me put it you like this ladies; what are some of the reasons that black men will get a really nice car even if they cannot afford it? Why do some men spend big money on drinks at the club when he is with his boys? They do this to get women’s attention, they know that some black women will see you “making it rain” in the club and when those men try to talk to you, you pay them no mind. Maybe that woman did not find the man that attractive, but then she sees you at the “let out” and you are pushing a Mercedes; now you have got her attention. These men figure that all they need to do is show you that they have money and if you give up the booty, you can be the main girl in his front seat. What usually ends up happening with situations like this is that even though that guy has the nice car, the clothes and they take you out to dinner and a movie, they still live at home with mommy. Sometimes they are not that educated and they have to work two and three jobs just to keep up with the appearance of being a baller. At this point, you have given your goodies away to a bum who does not really have any goals and is certainly not looking to settle down. Then you have the actual ballers who always get what they want from women even if they have to pay for it. You may not be a prostitute, but since he took you on that little vacation, you repay him with sex. Once he gets it, he drops you and is on to the next leaving you feeling dirty and ashamed. I have a suggestion; instead of looking for the man with the BMW, the Acura, the Range Rover, celebrity status or whatever, look for the man who is college educated. Look for the man who has a plan for his future, look for the man that is actually interested in your plans for your own future. Look for the man who loves God, look for the man who loves and respects his mother (but not a momma’s boy). After all, a man who loves God and respects his mother will also love and respect you. Lastly, look for the man who will wait to have sex with you when you are HIS WIFE. A man who understands your worth knows that you have so much more to offer. A man who understands your worth knows that by God’s grace he will have plenty of time as your husband to make love to you. A REAL MAN will respect you more when you are not quick to give up the ass, which will make him want you that much more…that is the POWER OF THE P! Please feel free to comment or share your opinion and keep it classy always.